Time lost...


Ahh yes, young Children. What can I say, we were not kidding when we said they'd change your life forever. Colds are something you'll have to get used to, breast feeding for as long as possible(within accepted norms) allegedly helps build the protection into the kids, which in turn will protect you... teachers being an exception to this rule... given all they snot they have to deal with its build protection or quit...

On the training front I can only offer the following thoughts. Some couples immerse themselves into their kids and come out the other side completely different people; same do it and don't change, and some don't do it and their kids come out as completely different people... there is of course a middle ground.

Experience would suggest that you need to make time for each other and yourselves. Before you know it the "little ones" will be 15 yrs old and your life will have passed you buy. Making time for each other together and apart seems to build more inner strength into your kids, it also gives our partner something to excel in other than kids and work. For time together, as soon as reasonable I'd recommend setting aside one regular evening and doing something, anything outside the house - so that's theatre, cinema, friends, walking, or food...

Then there's time for each other alone. Getting out on your own, as longs as its equitable, is useful. It allows you to develop a balance. Some people think marriage is about being joined at the hip and doing and thinking everything the same. Well if that was true, why would you need two parents ? Getting time alone allows you to develop/maintain perspective, it gives you a chance to experience different things, to enjoy a small bit of life that will give you something to discuss that might be of genuine interest to your partner, or at least something to trade intellectually from time to time.

Of course, some of us don't get the balance right, spend to much time alone, to much time away. And its true when they say that time lost is the only thing you can't find no matter how hard you look! My son is 15 now, where did the last 7-years go?
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time lost...
(Anonymous)
Time lost? looks like you're lost You dont normally go a week without saying anything... :--)


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